It has been a very long time since my last post. Whew! Life has been crazy! In August, I buckled down and graduated! So I now have a Bachelors of Science in Psychology. Then right after that in September, we moved from Colorado to Texas. We didn't have any help so it was way intense and I am still unpacking. Then the holidays came, and being a mom, and well, this blog got put on the back burner for a bit. But, this hi-etas of mine allowed me to see a world of mothering that I am ashamed of.
I have been seeing moms criticizing other moms for their parenting choices. This is terribly sad. Mothers need to be supporting one another, not adding to the stress and tear downs life already has on moms. I have been seeing mom criticize other moms for choosing to formula feed, for breast feeding in public, for choosing to work, for choosing to stay home, for choosing to cloth diaper, for choosing to use sposies, and so on and so on! What the hell is wrong with these criticizing moms?! The important thing is that baby is fed, clean, healthy, and happy. It doesn't matter how this is accomplished. What works for one mom may not work for another. Moms need to be supporting one another, guiding one another, and being their for each other.
Being a mom is one of the grossest, most stressful, trying, amazing, rewarding things in life. There is not enough time in it to tear another mom down for trying her best. Being a mom is the greatest learning experience in one's life. All we can do is wake up everyday and try to be better than the day before. ALL moms will make mistakes. ALL moms will find things that just don't work. ALL moms will get frustrated and angry and feel like they are not doing enough. This is ALL part of being a mom.
Moms need to unite and understand that everyone will raise their child differently. Everyone will love their children differently. Motherhood is not the time to make other mothers feel bad about their choices. No one way is right. Power to you working moms, but remember you are not better than those that stay home. You do not work harder. Power to you stay-at-home moms, but remember you are not better than those that work. You do not love your child more. Power to you formula feeding moms, your baby is being fed. Do not shame a mother for feeding her baby by breast in public (it is completely natural). Power to you breast feeding moms, it can be so difficult to stick with it. Do not make a formula feeding mom feel guilty for choosing to feed her baby differently, baby is being fed. Power to you over 30 moms and you under 30 moms and you teen moms. We are all in this together. Find some other moms and become close to them. They will be your saving grace through this ride and share with each other. It will make each of you a better mom.
